Workplace: White Collar, Do You Have "Fear"?

Miss Wang was very annoyed when she came to see me.

She works very carefully and has a good relationship with her colleagues and subordinates, but she does not want to communicate with her superiors.

In fact, she admired her superiors, saying that he was dedicated, talented, and responsible to his subordinates. But she did not know why she was so weak at the sight of her superiors that she could hide away from her superiors.

Once, because the boss did not hear clearly, the boss gave her work to be delayed. The boss later asked her: why do you just come and ask again? She said, "I'm afraid you are too busy."

The boss is very angry. I am busy with my work. What are you afraid of?

For a long time, Miss Wang was nervous with her boss. She had a blush, heartbeat, and no speaking.

Everyone thought Miss Wang was afraid of her boss. She thought so too.

When her boss saw her like this, she seldom communicated with her alone.

A promotion opportunity came, Miss Wang wanted to have this opportunity, but hesitated, because the job after promotion will face more complex relationship, and need to keep in touch with the boss.

She felt that she was naturally afraid of leadership and asked me how to overcome psychological obstacles.

Through consultation, I found that the psychological barriers to communication came from Miss Wang's mistakes.

Miss Wang's example can be said to have a certain representativeness. A harmonious relationship between subordinates and subordinates is very important to the development of personal career. Here, I would like to share with you some questions about Miss Wang's problems and communication with her superiors.

In fact, as long as you pay attention to the following points, you will find it difficult to communicate with your boss.

We should abandon the idea of "not having too much contact with superiors".

Miss Wang thinks that if you go too close to your boss, others will have a view, and talk too much with your boss.

Such habitual knowledge and ideas are not suitable for her work environment.

A reasonable communication concept should be: communicating with superiors is an important duty in your job. You need to know your boss's intention, get your boss's support, grasp your future work direction, plan on a unified pace, avoid different directions, and affect the overall work effect.

Don't be afraid to "hit the nail on the head".

Through consultation, I found that Miss Wang was not born to be afraid of her superiors, but when she asked her boss for advice, her boss's words were more severe, which made her unable to bear it. Later, she became more and more evaded from her boss.

Communication can not get a good feedback from the boss, which is very active.

However, after investigation, many managers did not really "torture" subordinates, but did not realize their influence on their subordinates.

So when your boss's feedback is poor, you need to make a judgement first, whether it is possible for your boss to realize his problem.

Then, you can remind your boss, change your boss, or be a cheeky person at the right time, and enhance your frustration ability mentally.

It is worth noting that it is the key to perform the duties of one's own work regardless of whether the supervisor's behavior is appropriate or not.

Enhance self-confidence by improving communication skills

Communication is an important skill. In communication with superiors, it is necessary to constantly improve their skills. For example, in communication content, we should insist on making our own views clear, important content justified and understandable. In communication mode, we adopt the communication frequency, language style, attitude and emotion that the boss accepts easily. At the very beginning, we should adopt the way of face-to-face communication preferably. After familiarity, we can use telephone and e-mail.